Boundaries and Self-care During the Holidays

Uncategorized Dec 03, 2021

Boundaries and Self-care During the Holidays

BY AMY HARPER, LMFT

"Remember, enjoying the holidays is not about how much work you exert, how much time or money you’ve spent or even how many gatherings you have attended. It’s about being able to show up in all of your abundance and creating genuine and authentic connections with the family and friends that you love so much."

The holiday season is the busiest time of the year for most. The month of December feels so alive– filled with joy and excitement. However, this season can also be extremely draining not only physically but also mentally and emotionally. The fast-paced hustle and bustle combined with the must-do activity list can quickly add up to a full plate with a side of burn-out. This is the time of year that most couples struggle the most and the demand for therapy triples. 
 
You may find yourself feeling as though certain expectations and various responsibilities and obligations are put on you, not only by your own immediate family but also by extended family and even friends. Some women worry about purchasing the perfect gifts, cooking awe worthy meals, planning and organizing holiday activities and attending every party they are invited to. This pressure can quickly take the joy out of the holiday season and exchange it for exhaustion and resentment.  
 
Because of this, it’s important to recognize the importance of boundaries and self-care during the holiday season. If we do not establish these, the holidays will feel like a burden rather than a joyous occasion. With the amount of holiday tasks on your checklist, it’s easy to forget to focus on our personal needs as well.
 
First, let’s talk about boundaries. When is the last time you checked in with what it is you actually want your holiday season to look and feel like? If you are a people pleaser, explore this. Begin by asking yourself why it is so important to check all the boxes, do all the things, and please all the people at the expense of your own good. Stretching yourself thin truly isn’t necessary and those that truly care about you, also care about your boundaries and well-being. This is why it’s important to learn how to say no even when we fear it may disappoint someone.  
 
Setting these boundaries towards your family doesn’t mean you don’t love them or you don’t want to make them happy, it simply means you care about yourself enough to honor your own needs. Feelings of resentment and anger get avoided when the burden of pleasing others is removed. You will find yourself enjoying the holidays more than ever. Setting boundaries is an important act of self-care. 
 
The holiday season is indeed the most beautiful time of the year. However, it can quickly turn south if we are not taking care of ourselves. Remember, enjoying the holidays is not about how much work you exert, how much time or money you’ve spent or even how many gatherings you have attended. It’s about being able to show up in all of your abundance and creating genuine and authentic connections with the family and friends that you love so much. 

May you be well in mind, body and soul this holiday season!

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